I’ve never been one to get over losing easily. In fact, I distinctly remember pushing a marble up my brother’s nose as a dirty faced 8 year old because he beat me at Ker-plunk. Not that I was any good at the game, I just didn’t have the patience for it.
Maybe that’s what makes losing so hard to take, knowing that you didn’t really have the skill to win in the first place and you are just kidding yourself to even try…….
Of course the paragraph above is absolute piffle. However, it is the same message that is played in a lot of people’s minds every single time they fail. The truth is, failing should be seen as a positive, a chance to grow, an opportunity. Losing just takes you another step closer to getting it right (as long as you learn from it).
That’s a lot easier said than done, I hear you cry, and you’re right, but that doesn’t mean we should stop trying. I can think of many things I’ve ‘lost’ throughout my life; football matches, card games, driving tests, job interviews and that special first date with Claire Martin in class 4c. At the time they all affected me in their own little way (particularly Claire Martin in class 4c, but I don’t want to go into that right now), there was nothing fun about the loss and there shouldn’t be. What matters is what happens afterwards.
Henry Ford once said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right”.
When I first read that quote I think I re-read it five or six times. It’s not the easiest statement to make sense of, but it’s one of the truest things I ever read. It sums up, for me, the fact that so many of us allow our beliefs to become our drivers and eventually these drivers become ‘us’.
Stop and think about yourself and how many restrictive beliefs you have developed that are stopping you from really achieving what you want to in life. Go on, do it, stop, right now…and think.
Now consider where those beliefs came from. How much truth do they really hold? Now, now, don’t start making excuses, or backing up the data with weak support…truly consider the facts of the matter. I would like to be so bold as to suggest there is not a lot of real factual evidence to back up your claims at all.
The good thing is, it’s not too late to change, you just have to want to bad enough. So give it a go. It may feel uncomfortable at first, you may start to feel those old beliefs creeping back into your head. Blow them away, dust down the cobwebs of negativity and believe in yourself once again. I know you can do it and you need to know it too.
You see, I know that it works, I did it for me. I shrugged off my old beliefs and started afresh. I still fail, but I learn and move on and if people don’t like the new positive me…I stick marbles up their nose.
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