Emotional Intelligence – Methods of Improving Self-Management

Posted May 28th, 2008

Self-management is attained by being aware of your emotions and habitual responses and understanding them to the degree that you have some control over them. Over time you will increase your ability to pick up on the information being provided to you and further increase your ability to self-manage. The following suggestions might also help.

Choose your attitude

Remember, you always have the choice to act in any way you want to. You are not controlled by your emotions and if you take time out to consider what the rational way of acting is in any given situation, you will become more focused on the positive aspects of your interactions.

Anchor your positive feelings

Think of the periods when you were really in control. Harness those positive feelings and emotions and recall them in times when you feel less positive. This will help you to overcome bad feelings.

Challenge negative ‘self-talk’

Every time you hear your negative ‘inner voice’ telling you that you can’t achieve something or that you will fail, challenge it, ask yourself why you can’t achieve it or why you will fail.

Have a positive mental attitude

When you have a positive mental attitude, you look at how things can be done rather than why they can’t be done. You believe that “where there’s a will, there’s a way.” You look at possibilities and opportunities rather than obstacles and problems. This mindset is important for success in any endeavour.

Live life with an abundance mentality

People with an abundance mentality believe there are enough resources available to accomplish their goals. They also believe that their success doesn’t mean failure for others. On the contrary, the more successful they are, the more others are affected in a positive way. They can be happy when friends and associates prosper. They can enter every business transaction with a “win/win” attitude.

This is an excerpt from the training manual of our training course material on ‘Emotional Intelligence’, which you can purchase from our website at


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