We all use what we consider
influencing skills every day to try and get what we want. However, although we
might think we are influencing, it could be that the methods we are using are
quite different to what can be considered ‘influencing skills’.
using to get people to do things fall into the following areas
give us short term wins and more often than not people become resistant to the
methods and become less likely to respond to them. The reason for this is that
they are more about helping you out than demonstrating that there are benefits
for both parties. Once we have experienced these behaviours from one person, we
are less open to them in future.
for anyone in the workplace to consistently gain the cooperation of others they
must learn effective influencing skills.
displaying to get people to do things can be:
empathy, honesty, challenge, support, exposing concerns, fears, blockers,
positive attitude, positive body language, rapport building, seeks first to
understand before being understood, trying to appeal to a value that is
important to the other person.
difference between the definition of ‘influencing’…
by showing that there is a real and genuine advantage to them in
moving in the direction you want – Influence is the ability to affect a
person’s character, beliefs or actions, reaching agreement by discussion”
urge or prevail. To convince through reasoning. To talk someone into
So, the next time you try to influence someone, consider what style you are using and whether you are in fact influencing, or just telling people what to do!
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